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Mistake #4 - Binge Eating and Alcohol
Mistake #10 - Seek Revenge
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Mistake #6 - Begging For Reconciliation
Don't try to break down your ex's car, or teepee their house. Never do something that can cause you legal trouble and a restraining order. If you are hurting, deal with it through venting out on your friends and not on your ex. The temptation of revenge won't feed anything but your bitterness. You might have been betrayed, but revenge won't heal your wounds. Move on, it really is the best thing to do.
Mistake #2 - Venting Problems On The Internet
10 Worst Mistakes People Make After A Bad Break-Up
Mistake #8 - Dating Ex's Friends
Mistake #1 - Pretend You Are Fine
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Worrying and stressing all about what happened can be something that can cause you to be depressed. Instead of being so worried and panicked, you should instead consider believing how this may all be for the best. When you are able to understand that the breakup was for the best, then you won't have to worry about what happened and what could have happened.
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Breakups are something that people go through all the time. It is something that can be painful and difficult to go through. This is why it is important to know how to deal with the problem as opposed to reacting to the breakup in a way that makes the process even harder to go through. However, when you're mourning from a broken relationship, you need to make sure that you avoid a couple things that totally go against the entire breakup etiquette rules.
Mistake #5 - Staying Friends
Mistake #3 - Over Analyzing The Break Up
No matter how much your breakup may hurt, abusing food and alcohol is never the answer. A ton of people tend to let themselves go because of how hurt they are with the breakup they went through. However, doing this will only make the entire process harder to get through. You want to be able to forget about the breakup and not try to find more reasons why they are the perfect partner,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], because you will never get them back that way.
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It is so rare for breakups to lead to a decent and solid friendship. This can only happen until you are completely fine with the fact that your ex will be dating new people and introducing those people to you. It is very important that you create intentional space even for a little while to let yourself breathe and mourn after the relationship. If it seems like your ex is forcing to start a friendship, let them know that it may not be a good idea for the moment. Right now, you may not be looking to want to hangout with someone who has just broken your heart. So make sure you have your space.
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Peter’s corollary states that “in time, every post tends to be occupied by an employee who is incompetent to carry out their duties” and adds that “work is accomplished by those employees who have not yet reached their level of incompetence.” “Managing upward” is the concept of a subordinate finding ways to subtly “manage” superiors in order to limit the damage that they end up doing.
If I’m a director of a play,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], I’d not be able to see the whole representation or gestalt of a scene if I were on stage directing amid the characters. Seated off stage in the audience or even in the balcony I can see the bigger picture of how the actors engage with each other, the lighting, the set design, the sound quality: I can see things I wouldn’t be able to if I didn’t set myself apart to view get the Big Picture.
I can’t tell you the number of times over that past few weeks that I’ve heard the term seeing the big picture. I pay attention when something is said two or more times; there’s something to be mined for myself and perhaps for others.
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The dilemma, which will surely arise is that we are generally committed to maintaining the level of comfort and invulnerability within which we don’t feel threatened and are in jeopardy of losing respect or losing face. In order to let go of the trapeze bar of one level of functioning in order to swing to and grasp another, you have to be committed enough to let go of what no longer serves. Some of us aren’t willing to do this unless we know that there is a secure and well-placed safety net below that will catch us unscathed if we do fall.
One distinction of a good leader is that they are willing to risk the scathing, the failures, and the vulnerability because they are able to see from a bigger picture that these potential risks serve the Bigger Picture. They are committed to this bigger picture enough. Without the ability to see the bigger picture they would not have the level of fearlessness required to make those hard choices.
One aspect of being an executive coach that I love is that I’m in a sense a leader’s leader. I hold the bigger picture for my executive clients to live into. I give them a bigger bandwidth within which to experience themselves, their organization and the role they intend to play. I empower them to make the leap and while in the leap experience the transition from who they thought they were to who they are becoming. This noticing of what it’s like to be in the leap – noticing the various muscles that are used to engage, maintain and complete the leap is also an aspect of the Bigger Picture that we don’t think about when we ask our direct reports to shift or change their context in order to also see and act from the Big Picture.
Until Chantal was hired as the CFO, it didn’t occur to her that she would need to operate differently from the way she had been working just months ago. Most of us take our Operating Procedure Manual(OPM) with us to the next level of leadership only to find that we are drained by juggling what we’ve been doing with the requirement of working as if you are holding the Bigger Picture; before you even know what that means. Chantal realized that in order to fulfill her roles as the CFO she’s got to let go of her limiting OPM and take the leap.
Rising to the level of incompetence
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In the business environment, getting the Bigger Picture is what Alon is wanting of his new CFO, Chantal; and it’s what she want from the manager, Marko,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], who she is hiring next week; and, it’s what Alon’s manager is wanting from him, too. Do these individuals have the capacity to see the Bigger Picture and then make leadership decisions that will support what is desired for all?
It’s challenging to pop out of your current fishbowl or context in order to see the Bigger Picture. Again, like a fish, we don’t know that there is a reality outside the fishbowl within which we are immersed. We say “What Fishbowl? What Bigger Picture?” It’s not that we are ignorant,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], it’s that rarely is there a context that allows us to get that there is a Bigger Picture to see.
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With the Peter Principle in mind then, one perhaps rises to their ability to see the Bigger Picture and then be able to act with competence,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], fulfilling their duties. It takes commitment and a capacity to expand one’s reality. What are you willing to practice in service to seeing the Bigger Picture and perhaps meet your incompetence? Every great leader must face this exquisite and essential moment of reckoning. And, if they can learn from the experience they have a great capacity to empower others to do the same.
The bigger the picture you can hold the more valuable you are to your company and organization
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We are all immersed in a paradigm and reality, much like a fish in the water it swims in. A fish can’t distinguish itself from this water, just as most of us don’t distinguish ourselves from our thoughts,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], emotions and body sensations; just as most of us don’t distinguish ourselves from the work, roles and details we’ve been attending to, without considering the value of our contribution,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], the degree of fulfillment, toxicity or dysfunction we may contribute to, and the productivity gained from a business or financial perspective.
Formulated by Dr. Laurence J. Peter and Raymond Hull, the Peter Principle states that “in a hierarchy, every employee tends to rise to his level of incompetence,” meaning that employees tend to be promoted until they reach a position at which they cannot work competently.
I’ll give you a number of analogies that might be helpful:
Seeing the Big Picture; what the heck does that mean? What requires one to see the big picture? And, what dilemma becomes apparent when considering the leap? “The Leap?” you might ask. Why would it take a leap?
Quite often we have moments of lucidity, where we get the big AH-HA! However,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], this moments of transcendence dissolve back into are reality that we call normal. Exercising the muscles of awareness through noticing, which constantly nudges one to stay awake and aware,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], is required for most of us to truly shift our paradigm to include this next level of the Bigger Picture.
Like the woman on the flying trapeze, Chantal will have to let go of a known way of viewing the world. She’ll have to operate from a different and larger perspective, which requires a letting go of the known for the unknown. She’ll be surrendering her invulnerability,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and the survival mechanism she developed, that worked well enough to avoid vulnerability. Like all of us, Chantal wants to avoid that moment when she meets the “I don’t know how to make that leap without possibly falling on my face and looking like a complete fool and failure.”
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The phone call came when Kate (the names have been changed) was about to walk into an important meeting. She was totally unprepared for the venomous hysterics from her neighbor, Fran Smith. Fran claimed that Kate’s eleven-year-old daughter Lindsey had posted vicious lies about Fran’s daughter Jessica on Facebook. Jessica was apparently devastated and refusing to go to school. Fran was demanding that Kate handle the situation or she was going to go to the principal.
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It’s very important that you take care of yourself physically and stop being weighed down by the breakup. More often than not, immediately after a breakup most people are not bothered about their physically appearance, they say to themselves, “why should I be concerned about how I look when the person that means the world to me has decided to call it a quit in the relationship.” If this describes you, then you must change your mentality. The truth is that nobody wants to be around someone that is depressed and sad. If you love yourself,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], you will attract people towards you and this includes your ex as well. Do whatever it takes to look good and this may include: getting your body in shape, getting a new hairdo, getting some new wears etc.
Making your ex fall in love with you again will not happen overnight. You need to give your ex some time, and don’t even try to use jealousy as a tool.
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“How to make your ex fall in love with you again?” If you are asking this question, probability is that you are in search of ways to rekindle the love in your relationship. Normally,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], after a breakup, you still have lingering emotions for your ex. There will be moment when you are going to miss him or her like crazy and wish you both were still together. Making your ex fall in love with you again is not as complicated as you think. If you know the psychological hot buttons to push in your ex, then getting them back is as easy as 1,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], 2, 3. The fact is that your ex still loves you even if the breakup occurred long ago or you both don’t talk often. Now, let’s talk about some stunting psychological trick to make your ex fall in love with you again.
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Do you set goals? I have to admit, early in my career there was nothing -- I mean nothing -- I hated more than goals. I dreaded that time of year when corporate would send down, from on high, their expectations of what they wanted and expected us to do. The goals were always high, always confusing, and always late. Meaning that by the time they decided what our goals would be, we were already behind when we received them.
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Dr. Major emphasizes that the obsessed alienator is consumed with destroying the targeted parent’s relationship with the child. She concludes that the severely obsessed alienator is untreatable. Her comments include “They don’t bend;” ”It is winner take all for them;” “They have a very serious psychiatric problem.” “You can't fix those people.”
We cannot read their minds. We cannot know what they actually believe. They lie. When a rapist, for example, elaborates a detailed,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], vivid account of his innocence, does that mean he really believes he wasn’t at the scene of the crime, or is he just spinning a convincing version of what he wants others to believe? If - as I think –parental alienators are sociopathic without conscience - how can anyone know the difference between what they actually think and what they say? Parental alienators lie about the targeted parent. They can be very convincing. They can even induce others to conclude that they actually believe their own fabrications.
Forensic psychiatrist Dr. Richard A. Gardner first identified Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) in the 1980's. He observed that the disorder wasn't just brainwashing or programming by a parent. It includes what Dr. Gardner calls self-created contributions by the child in support of the alienating parent's campaign of denigration against the targeted parent.
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My experience corroborates her conclusion that severely obsessed alienators are untreatable, often sociopathic and narcissistic, unable to experience empathy or compassion for others, and unable to appreciate another person's point of view, including that of their child. They feel entitled to destroy the targeted parent and as collateral damage, even harm their children.
Dr. Douglas Darnall in his book Divorce Casualties: Protecting Your Children from Parental Alienation, describes three categories of PA:
Abusers lie. If they are consistent and convincing, they may induce others to believe what they fabricate. And, if they are consistently good at it, they may even appear to believe what say. Perhaps, – they have awareness that they are lying, but, perhaps, they never admit it.
The Child’s Participation in Parental Alienation
In divorce, how could a child be brainwashed or programmed by one parent to denigrate the other parent to the point, sometimes of outrageously vilifying and hating the targeted parent.
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What motivates a parent to undertake PAS?
PAS parents tend to be narcissistic (self-centered) and sociopathic (lacking moral conscience). They experience a significant narcissistic blow from the failure of the marriage,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and they feel entitled to absolutely destroy the child’s relationship with the other parent. To accomplish this, they must essentially assume total control over their child. They may appear to love their children, but this is only an appearance. To the alienator, the children are merely possessions – much like a “beloved” teddy bear is. If “Teddy” were to come to life and actually assert himself, the alienator might toss him into the closet. Alienators are unable to see the child as a separate from themselves. Possession is not real love. Truly loving parents don't need to do a parentectomy on their child (assuming no actual abuse has taking place). But alienators feel entitled to lie.
Narcissistic alienating parents presume that they have special entitlement. They think that rules apply only to other people.
As sociopaths, they are unable to experience empathy or compassion for others. They are unable to appreciate another person's point of view, including that of their child.
In spite of admonitions from judges and mental health professionals to stop their alienation, they can't. The prognosis for severely alienating parents is very poor. It is unlikely that they will stop trying to perpetuate the alienation. It is virtually a survival issue to them.
The Escalating Levels of Parental Alienation (PA)
PAS has not developed if the child still has a positive relationship with the targeted parent, even though the other parent is attempting to alienate. This level of alienation may be called Parental Alienation (PA) but,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], without the child’s denigrating the targeted parent, it falls short of the full Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS).
But Dr,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]. Major - and many others - come to a common conclusion which I question. She and others conclude that obsessed alienators continue to spin elaborate falsehoods to the point that they actually come to believe their own fabrications.
1. Mild alienators are willing to be educated and change.
2. Moderate alienators more aggressively alienate. They get out of control and don't want to admit it when they were.
3. Severe alienators are obsessed with absolutely destroying the other parent's relationship with the child. Severe alienators are untreatable. They are sociopaths without guilt or conscience about destroying the other parent. Dr. Gardner believes the only effective management of obsessed alienators is removing the child from their influence.
The child's part in PAS
Gardner emphasizes that in PAS both the parent and the child contribute to the denigration of the targeted parent. The child has to actually participate in the process,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych].
1. The child denigrates the alienated parent with foul language and severe oppositional behavior.
2. The child offers weak, absurd, or frivolous reasons for his or her anger.
3. The child is sure of him or herself and doesn't demonstrate ambivalence, i.e. love and hate for the alienated parent,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], only hate.
4. The child asserts that he or she alone came up with ideas of denigration. He calls this the "independent-thinker" phenomenon in which the child asserts that no one told him to reject and vilify the targeted parent.
5. The child supports and feels a need to protect the alienating parent.
6. The child does not demonstrate guilt over cruelty towards the alienated parent.
7. The child uses borrowed scenarios, or vividly describes situations that he or she could not have experienced.
8,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]. Animosity is spread to the friends and/or extended family of the alienated parent.
In severe cases of parent alienation, the alienator can even truthfully say that the child doesn't want to spend any time with this parent, even though he or she has told the child that visitation is ordered by the court. The alienator can say, "There isn't anything that I can do about it. I'm not telling him that he can't see you."
The targeted parent may have indeed spanked the child or lashed out at the alienating parent physically or emotionally. But an isolated incident can be remembered as a massacre.
The alienating parent's hatred exceeds normal bounds of resentment and can include allegations of domestic violence, stalking ,and the sexual molestation of the child. Targeted parents have been unnecessarily subjected to investigations of child abuse and neglect. In most cases the investigators report they found nothing wrong.
The lying befuddles most alienated parents. Yet, alienating parents are not necessarily unaware that they are fabricating. But they are consistent and convincing. They feel entitled to lie to gain their ends.
The courts have difficulty with PAS because traditional child abuse on the part of the alienating parent is unclear, especially when the child may be otherwise well cared for. On the other hand, PAS involves no true parental abuse and/or neglect on the part of the targeted, alienated parent. The child's animosity is not justified.
Almost always the alienator has people who support the alienation. The alienating parent often successfully enlists surrogate alienators, such as friends, lawyers, teachers, doctors, and mental health specialists who believe the alienator’s stories of how horrible is the other parent. Family members may also support the alienator financially or even provide massive amounts of money to fund litigation.
Alienation progresses by the alienating parent telling the child in great detail about every miserable and negative experience with the targeted parent. The child, enmeshed with the parent,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], absorbs the parent's negativity. The child aligns with this parent and feels a need to protect the alienating parent. The alienating influence on the child is often further compounded by the presence of surrogate alienators.
Excerpted from: Gardner, R.A. (1998). The Parental Alienation Syndrome, Second Edition, Cresskill,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], NJ: Creative Therapeutics, Inc.
The brainwashing of children in PAS is difficult for most people to comprehend. It is the Stockholm syndrome of malicious divorce in which the child absorbs the world view of the powerful, alienating parent and discards contradictory knowledge of the other parent. In time, the child seems to forget good memories of the targeted parent.
What happens to the PAS child?
Obsessed alienators are untreatable. They are sociopathic, lacking moral conscience about the damage they inflict on the targeted parent and upon the children they would like everyone to believe they love. Dr. Gardner believes the only effective management of obsessed alienators is removing the child from their influence.
If the full syndrome is allowed to develop, the child becomes estranged from the alienated parent. The relationship with this parent is ultimately severed. Even as an adult, the child may never understand what happened.
The child's primary role model will be the maladaptive, dysfunctional parent. He or she will not have the benefit of growing up with the more well-adjusted parent and all that this parent can contribute to enrich the child's life. Many of these children come to experience serious psychiatric problems.
Without someone who can recognize the syndrome and counsel them, it is unlikely that they will ever understand it. However, sometimes, the child and the alienated parent do successfully reunite later in life.
How does a child succumb to PAS?
Gardner observed that alienation is not the full syndrome unless the child actively participates in the alienation and denigration of the targeted parent. The targeted parent, however, struggles to understand what has happened to what was once an affectionate and loving child who is now inexplicably hostile. How does this happen?
A central role of parenting is to help the child grow into a separate, independent person. Instead of promoting independence, however, the alienating parent exploits and encourages continued dependence. The alienating parent projects an image of himself or herself as capable and of the targeted parent as incapable of caring for the child.
When children enjoy spending time with the targeted parent, they learn that such information is not welcome to the alienator. They may want to bond with the targeted parent, but they essentially make a strategic decision that it is in their best interests to side with the powerful alienator. Therefore, children will tell the alienator everything they didn't enjoy about time spent with the other parent.
When parents first separate there is often parent alienation. A parent, for example, might communicate indirectly to a child the message that he or she is not safe with the other parent.
The alienating parent might say:
"If you get scared, you call me right away."
"I'll come get you if you want to come home."
Usually this level of alienation subsides as the parents adjust.
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I will relate a brief clinical vignette. Joe, not his real name, was convicted of spousal abuse and remanded by the court to a rehabilitation program for abusers. As part of the therapy, staff and patients participated in a dramatization about physical abuse between a husband and wife. A male staff member played the part of the abusive husband. When his stage wife complained that he had punched and hurt her, he apologized. Joe immediately stood up and instructed the stage husband, “Never, never apologize; never admit your responsibility.” I think Joe reveals something important. He is telling us that,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], as an abuser, he would not acknowledge his abusive behavior. That does not mean he lacks awareness of it – only that he would never acknowledge it.
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So, when parents are at the place where they can say it,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], mean it, and follow through, they are in a position to lay down the bottom line, and tell the substance abuser that they have the choice-treatment or leave.
It is important to remember that getting clean and sober is a process. When confronted by a family member about the alcohol or other drugs, an alcoholic/addict initially denies that they are using and tries to engage the confronting parent in a debate, argument, or "prove it" session. The parent or significant other does not have to prove anything. They just have to describe the behavior that is problematic, how it affects them, and that they are not willing to continue to tolerate it. Parents can point out the connection between the dots, but not engage in an argument about it. They might say something like this "when you do this........, I think that you are using drugs. I feel hurt and scared and I am not willing to watch you destroy your life. You cannot continue to live with us the way that you are. There is a bed reserved for you at ......treatment center. Before you finish treatment we will help you figure out what to do next."
Of course, when you have little information about these factors, you also don't know what level of care the alcoholic/addict needs. There are plenty of licensed alcohol/drug counselors who can do an assessment and make recommendations about a level of care.
People are usually motivated to change in the midst of pain. When there are negative consequences that are causing emotional,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], psychological, or other distress, addicts can become willing to ask for and/or accept help. The help that they ask for is usually about wanting to be bailed out again,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], but when one's choices are equally unattractive, a treatment center bed begins to sound pretty good.
One of the problems with that is that all assessment for addiction is based on self-report data. Although there are scales in many diagnostic tools that are supposed to be able to detect denial and dishonest answers, addiction can certainly go undetected.
All of this speaks to the complicated issue that parents are dealing with,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]. Anyone in this process would benefit from professional help in figuring out how best to navigate these turbulent waters. I would encourage any parent or spouse in this position to get help for the process,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]. Getting a loved one into treatment is just the beginning.
When an adult child with addiction problems lives with his parents, those parents are faced with hard choices. The addict believes that he is only harming himself,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], yet the truth is that the addiction is hurting everyone and is typically tearing the family apart.
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There are professionals that do interventions. Parents and other significant people can also do an intervention. If he chooses to move out instead of going to treatment at this point, it does not mean that there will not be another opportunity to offer treatment.
Parents and significant others of alcoholics/addicts in deciding upon a course of action must make decisions based on what they can live with. There is a huge difference between bottom lines and threats. If in fact, family members have decided that they are not willing to tolerate having an active addict living in their home, then they are at a bottom line.
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Have you ever been perfectly content all alone?
Most people would answer yes to both questions
and yet a number of the same people complain of painful
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Why are some people troubled with it so much more
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Because the state of despair and depression is so painful, it is easily remembered and associated with abandonment.
If the mother is unable to or does not respond to this cry, the baby will eventually fall into a quiet state of despair and depression. Even this emotional state has survival value. For an infant separated from its mother, continued crying could attract the attention of a predator. Falling into a state of depression is the only option available to the infant to conserve its energy and give the mother time to sniff it out and come to the rescue.
Loneliness is not the same as shame, but shyness is a form of shame in the presence of strangers that can cause people to become isolated and associate their isolation with abandonment. Some people have such intense shyness that it interferes with their functioning because of their inability to risk rejection when they venture out in the social world.
First the baby cries, which has the potential to get Mom's attention in case she has wandered off and misplaced the baby. Have you ever heard the plaintive sound of a bear cub or elephant calf separated from its mother? It is not difficult
to recognize the tone of fear and sadness in the sound of their cry.
Because the brain is designed to pay attention to pain and danger,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], focusing on the pain of anticipated loneliness can lead one to withdraw in depression rather than do the things necessary to make new friends or strengthen old friendships.
Sometimes it leads to a belief that relationships are inevitably painful and therefore not worth the effort. This is potentially very dangerous, because the more time we spend alone,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], the more likely we are to reflect on the pain of loneliness or the anger over rejection. These emotions are hysically draining as well as socially disadvantageous.
The pain of loneliness can also become a stumbling block.
The emotion we refer to as loneliness has its roots in an affect that has critical survival value for babies,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]. We might call this affect the distress of abandonment,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]. The sense of sadness and despair a small child or animal feels on being left alone is painful and elicits two kinds of behavior,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych].
Understanding the basic emotions contributing to loneliness and social phobia can help us recognize and begin to correct the more extreme expression of these emotions.
Finally, shame and depression can lead a person to hide themselves and their feelings behind a social façade in much the same way that the abandoned infant hides quietly in the tall grass in its depressed state. Without reaching out, a person becomes more isolated in reality as well as in thought and feeling.
In many cultures, human and animal,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], a grieving person becomes the focus of the attention of the group. The friends show up to prevent the widow or widower from withdrawing too much into their grief.
We can also think of the possibility of future abandonment and create anticipatory loneliness, imagining a future life alone.
Fear of loneliness can motivate us to seek friendship.
Loneliness is a feeling, not a fact.
Loneliness may also have some survival value for adults because the prospect of loneliness may motivate us to reach out to others whom we need for survival. We are social animals and our best chance
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